I don't try to see things from my husband's perspective because I want a "good relationship" with him. I want to see what he sees because of something I learned from Sheldon Vanauken years and years ago: I love him (my husband, not Vanauken). Because I love him, what he sees is worth seeing, his perspective is worth knowing, and what he loves must be worth loving.Read more here.
Because I love him, I will learn to love like him, and he like me, over time.
If our method doesn't pour forth from a heart full of love, it is nothing but an empty technique, or an interesting experiment in perspective.